Review- The Amateur Marriage by Anne Tyler

Title: The Amateur Marriage

The Amateur Marriage

Genre: Literary fiction

Author: Anne Tyler

Publisher: Ballantine, 2006

Source: Library

Rating: 4.5

Sexy Rating: (behind closed doors)

Description from

They seemed like the perfect couple—young, good-looking, made for each other. The moment Pauline, a stranger to the Polish Eastern Avenue neighborhood of Baltimore (though she lived only twenty minutes away), walked into his mother’s grocery store, Michael was smitten. And in the heat of World War II fervor, they are propelled into a hasty wedding. But they never should have married.

Pauline, impulsive, impractical, tumbles hit-or-miss through life; Michael, plodding, cautious, judgmental, proceeds deliberately. While other young marrieds, equally ignorant at the start, seemed to grow more seasoned, Pauline and Michael remain amateurs. In time their foolish quarrels take their toll. Even when they find themselves, almost thirty years later, loving, instant parents to a little grandson named Pagan, whom they rescue from Haight-Ashbury, they still cannot bridge their deep-rooted differences. Flighty Pauline clings to the notion that the rifts can always be patched. To the unyielding Michael, they become unbearable.

From the sound of the cash register in the old grocery to the counterculture jargon of the sixties, from the miniskirts to the multilayered apparel of later years, Anne Tyler captures the evocative nuances of everyday life during these decades with such telling precision that every page brings smiles of recognition. Throughout, as each of the competing voices bears witness, we are drawn ever more fully into the complex entanglements of family life in this wise, embracing, and deeply perceptive novel.


I read this book for my neighborhood book club and I did so reluctantly, thinking it would be another literary tome that would have me struggling to finish.  Surprise! I started reading at 8 pm and stayed up until 4 am to finish.  I was riveted to the story of Michael and Pauline.

This is the story of two people who loved each other but were totally unsuited to be married.  Anne Tyler makes every nuance come alive and we ache for these two suffering souls.  It is no surprise that the writing here is exquisite, Tyler won a Pulitzer Prize in 1988 and has not lost her touch.  The characters in this novel are familiar to all of us, from the bitter, demanding mother-in-law to the disenfranchised daughter, they are not caricatures but real people with real lives and their own seeming insurmountable problems.  Tyler’s perception is also shown in how the character of the son, George, seems to thrive and become successful in spite of the chaos of his home life.


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2 responses to “Review- The Amateur Marriage by Anne Tyler

  1. mo

    I’m intrigued. I’m going to be looking this author up.


    • Mo, I’ve read other Anne Tyler novels; THE ACCIDENTAL TOURIST and BREATHING LESSONS. But this one seemed more “real” than the others. I think it was because we all know people like Michael and Pauline and their children. This book is one of those that stays with you after you’ve read it. Our bookclub had a very spirted discussion about it, half liking the book and the other half not so much.


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